Rule №1: Ideal mothers do not exist. The French like to say: “Ideal mothers do not exist.” They also try to instill in children sociability, concentration and self-control. Other mothers at this time cause children to read and to teach numbers. But, according to the French, far more important is to lay a foundation that will bring them success in their studies and in their adult life.
Rule №2: You must have a source of income. French mothers believe that every woman should have a source of income. Even if her husband is wealthy, it is possible that all this will collapse one day. Frenchwomen approach looks very pragmatic, but you never know, what tomorrow will bring.
Rule №3: You cannot devote all the time to the child. Parents will always take care of their child. But we need to set aside time on ourselves. This can be a job or a hobby. The French are convinced that if the world revolves around the child – it’s bad for him.
Rule №4: from time to time moving away from the baby, you become a better mother. If the child will always feel that you took care of him, he can be a dependent in adult life. This does not mean that you should throw your child for two weeks. But let him have time to miss you.
Rule №5: Forget the feeling of guilt. It makes no sense to feel guilty because you have your own business. The main thing is a lot to communicate with the child in your spare time. Play with him, listen, learn to be patient, show your love.
Rule №6: Do not become a “mom taxi”. Do not try get your child in different activity clubs to compensate your absence. Parisienne, choosing extra-curricular activities for the baby think, how it will affect their quality of life.
Rule №7: Between parents there is a part in which the child does not participate. Do not forget that at the heart of the family – spouses. Pay attention not only to the kid, but also to your husband. One Frenchwoman told journalists memories from her childhood: “The bedroom of my parents has been a sacred place in the home. What was needed was a significant reason to go in there.”
Rule №8: Do not ask from a spouse equal participation in domestic affairs. Even if you are working, do not force your husband to do household chores equally with your part. In addition to irritation you get nothing. For Frenchwomen harmony in the relationship is overall important, and not equality of rights.
Rule №9: Time for adults. In France, the parents once a month weekend dedicate themselves only. This may be going to the movies or dinner.
Rule №10: The boss – it’s you. Pamela writes in her book: “This is the hardest rule of French education. I realize that I accept the decision. I am the boss … Remember that on top of your family’s pyramid is you…”